Teenage love relationship

The Teenage Love Relationship deals with the relationship of love that exists between the teenage groups. In schools the teenagers usually make friends easily and therefore there remains the chance for a young boy/girl to get easily involved in a relationship. The teenagers usually do not consider the various aspects that are associated with the relationship of love and therefore tend to make mistakes regarding the choosing of a girlfriend/boyfriend.

Teenage is that phase of life, when one tries to discover life and makes attempts to unfold the mysteries of life or it could be said that a teenager finds himself/herself trapped in this complex world. A teenager therefore searches for a true friend, with whom he/she can share all his/her troubles or is in need of a friend who would help him/her to cope with the challenges offered by life. Therefore it can be deducted that the root of teen love is friendship and often adulation for friends leads to infatuation.

Love is in fact the aspect due to which romance culminates into a relationship. Love is something which can't be determined or measured by anyone

In most cases it has been observed that the teenage love that does not last a lifetime but it is said that the love that one experiences as a teenager helps her/him choose the right partner in the future. The various factors that a teenager should pay heed to before getting deeply involved in a relationship are:

• See to the fact that he/she pays heed to your problems and finds happiness in your achievements.
Look in to the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend respects your decisions or opinions. Pay heed to the fact that whether he/she makes the effort to spend time with you. Take notice of the fact that, whether your lover tries to involve you in every sphere of his/her life

s the issue here really one of durability? Whether or not teenage relationships do last is of course a crucial issue – perhaps more so from the point of view of teenagers – but by being preoccupied with this question we ignore an equally important aspect of how teenage relationships significantly contribute to the socialization process of youth. From our own personal experiences and that of our friends’, we would tend to think that teenage relationships generally don’t last since adolescence is just the beginning of an exciting phase of human existence.

Why?

The reasons are simple. Indeed, majority of the romantic relationships that teenagers are involved in inevitably end anyway, by force of circumstance or because of the very nature of young romantic love. Graduating high schoolers eventually leave for their chosen university which can be out of town or out of state to prepare for future careers. Or meeting new people at university replace old friends and relationships nurtured during high school. And then you have the “economics” argument. How can two young people, no matter how in love they are with each other, pursue and sustain their feelings for each other when neither is financially prepared to aspire for the living arrangements that their older counterparts are more capable of doing? Let’s not forget the other factors – hedonism, ambivalence of youth and parental influence. All these make the idea of durability a somewhat precarious gamble.

Teenage Relationships: Forget the Stereotype

We cited the reasons why teenage relationships don’t last. Yet sometimes we fail to take into account that some of them actually do last forever. Just as no two snowflakes are alike, no two teenagers are like. For every hedonist, there is a teen who believes that pleasure in life must come in small doses. For every ambivalent teen, there is one who is incredibly focused and unwavering. And for every teen who likes an open, playing field, there is another who believes in having only one friend and lover. The non-traditional teenager is not a rare species. There are just as many teenagers who exhibit an exceptional degree of maturity that stretches beyond their age. For them, do their relationships last? We’ll have to admit that yes, for some of them, relationships that begin during their teenage years do last. The innocence of young love is magnificent to behold.

Teenagers: What’s Worse – Being One or Having One?

Why is this question relevant at all to the main question, you argue. Let’s not be too quick in dismissing it as a non-issue. One, teenagers lie at the core of teenage relationships, so before we attempt to assess their relationships’ durability or the lack of it, we need to take a good hard look at teenagers. The arrogance they carry around and the over self-confidence they project – which are sometimes annoying to us adults - are but a camouflage of their raw sense of direction. It’s their way of telling us that they’re still groping in the dark and dealing with the most awkward time of their life. Not that they want us to lead them to the right path. Goodness, no. They’re just saying, “ok, we’re lost, we’re confused, these pimples are glaring proof of our insecurities – but don’t you dare think we want you to take over the driver’s seat.” This is why you might have noticed why teenagers like to lock themselves inside their rooms when they’re home or talking on the phone. It’s an unwritten law tantamount to “no trespassing” that we have to decipher. May lightning strike us if we fail to understand their imposed boundaries – in our houses. Logan Pearsall Smith back in 1931 already understood the essence of a teenger, even when sophisticated psychological theory did not exist then: “Don't laugh at a youth for his affectations; he is only trying on one face after another to find a face of his own.” (from his work Afterthoughts, 1931). And what about this from an unknown and disgruntled high school principal: “Too many of today's children have straight teeth and crooked morals.” Even Edgar Friedenberg once said that the teenager appears to have replaced Communism as the public’s # 1 controversy and source of foreboding. Without question, teenagers can sometimes be more of a bane than a boon to parents. And as parents, we need to accept the fact that our sons and daughters – and their relationships – serve as part of our continuing education in that arena we call humanity.

Lasting or Fleeting Teenage Relationships - Does Gender Play a Role?

That seems to be the case, according to a study by the American Sociological Association. In an article published in May 2006 in the American Sociological Review, the writer wanted to debunk the view that boys are emotionally shallow or frivolous in their romantic undertakings. Like girls, they too have feelings that shatter easily, making them more vulnerable and fragile when faced with a potential or actual break-up. Behind all that bravado, the article says, “is an unsure adolescent who finds it hard to express emotions that, while new, are nonetheless often sincerely felt.” The article, written by Doctors Peggy Giordano, Monica Longmore and Wendy Manning of Bowling Green State University also stated that “These early relationships matter for boys, as well as for girls, and even though they may not last forever, the young people are taking important lessons from them about how to conduct social relationships, and about themselves and their emerging identities.” Hence the reason for our question in the beginning of this article. It’s not so much the permanence of teenage relationships that we should worry about, it’s how these relationships shape their future personalities. Regrettably, teenage dating and relationships have until now been a neglected area of study by behaviorists because they are regarded as temporary and not lasting very long. Another reason is that there seems to be more concern about sexual patterns among teenagers rather than on the relationship itself. Giordano believes that since 80% of American adolescents have had a romantic relationship by age 18, focus must be on what these relationships mean to them and how their romantic partnerships in the future will be shaped. The researchers learned that boys are more shy and more awkward about communicating their feelings. Girls, on the other hand, show an impressive display of their decision-making capabilities and hence are more prepared for emotional involvement. They have no qualms about talking to their close friends about their interactions with boys, hence giving them a broader perspective and a keener sensitivity than boys. Parents are often worried about their teens’ involvement in dating relationships and sexual activity. Given the potential consequences and risks, their concerns are perfectly understandable. At the same time, parents need to be aware that preaching restraint and hoping that kids will not fall in love and become sexually active until marriage, is naive at best and dangerous at worst. Teens need our guidance and support even when they behave in ways we do not approve of. While a great deal of research looks at the negative consequences of teen dating and sexual activity, researchers from the University of California-Davis have been looking into the positive aspects of teen romance. Researchers Bill McCarthy and Teresa Casey studied data collected in 1994 from approximately 20,000 students in grades 7 to 12. They also reviewed data from follow-up interviews in 1996. What they found was that, for kids that had already been involved with the law, romantic love had a deterrent effect. The researchers hypothesized that romantic love strengthens social bonds that discourage offending. According to McCarthy & Casey, romantic love “discourages crime by reminding people to consider the reactions of those to whom they are attached when contemplating a crime”. McCarthy and Casey also looked at teen sex and crime. While previous research had shown a positive association between the two, McCarthy and Casey discovered that it depends on whether or not sex takes place within a romantic relationship. That is, they found that sexual intercourse in the context of a romantic relationship eliminates the oft-cited association between teen sexual activity and crime. However, as seen in past research, teens in non-romantic sexual relationships had higher rates of criminal activity. These results were consistent with 2006 research by Corey Keyes that showed that adolescents who had strong attachments to others had decreased levels of depression, conduct disorder and drug use. While McCarthy and Casey focused on the positive effects of teen romance, their research underscores the positive impact of attachment and close relationship in general. Close relationships can take many forms including romantic ties, friendships, and parent-child bonds. In all forms, connections should be seen as a protective factor for your children.

What to teach teens about behaving ?

By the time a child becomes a teenager, they should have a basic understanding of how to behave in society, and preferably how to behave in polite society. Unfortunately, the definition of 'polite society' varies from community to community, and from family to family. Even well behaved teens may upset the fussy biddy that lives next door if they are playing a noisy game of football in the street.But perhaps there are some standards of behavior that we can all agree on, so that teenagers have a baseline of acceptable public behavior.

1) Obey the Law
The law may be an ass, but it is the law. There are laws that apply to teens that do not apply to adults that I don't agree with, but the right way to deal with them is not to break them. If a parent or a child feels that strongly about something, they should work to change the law. All laws, logical or not, should be obeyed.

2) Respect for Authority
Figures of authority, in particular teachers and the police, should be respected and obeyed. Yes, there are always individuals who do not live up to their responsible roles, but they should still be respected.

If there are complaints about a teens behavior, don't immediately jump to conclusions - listen to the authority figure, talk to your child and try to get to the root of the problem. Try to be as even handed as possible, but ensure that respect for the authority figure is maintained, whether justified or not.

3) Consideration for Others

The little old lady next door may be a bit of a pain, but if a teen's activity is causing her distress, there should be an attempt at compromise. Take the football game to a friend's house, or at least try to keep the noise down. When a neighbor complains, justified or not, a "I'm sorry you feel that way" should be a minimum response.

4) Respect for Property
This is really an extension of items 1 and 3, but it bears highlighting. People work hard for the things they have, and the abuse or destruction of property is unacceptable. It may be as simple as playing where you have been asked not to, or serious as vandalizing a building, but it is behavior that should to be allowed or tolerated.

5) Mind your Language (and Volume)
Teens have their own version of English, sprinkled with new words, as well as some old favorites, not all of which are considered acceptable in polite company. And often the volume is way too high or way too low (mumbling). This is fine when it's just the kids, but when with others, especially around little ones, teens should be encouraged to at least keep it clean and set a good example. And the elderly deserve a little preferential treatment too.

6) Mind your Manners
Holding doors, using a napkin, saying 'excuse me' after a belch and so on are just basic manners that should be instilled from early childhood. While basic manners may be 'forgotten' when a child becomes a teen, they should be re-encouraged, at least in the presence of adults and impressionable younger children.

Being a teen isn't easy - we demand they balance their need for independence with our need to have an acceptable standard of behavior, often with little or no guidance. Establishing clear guidelines for public behavior, and helping teens to conduct themselves accordingly can help ease the teenage years and make all of our lives much more pleasant.

TEENAGE STRESS

Any adult who doubts that teenage stress is a real problem affecting a large number of teenagers, only needs to cast their mind back to their own teenage years and recall their own experiences to realize how prevalent teenage stress is, and how difficult it can be. In recent years, the amount of stress in young people’s lives seems to be increasing, and stress seems to be present in their lives earlier and earlier. Recent survey results show that one third of all teenagers experience stress at least once per week.

Given the near impossibility of determining what normal teenage behavior is, it can be difficult, to say the least, to recognize the onset of teenage stress. The fact that teenagers are particularly reluctant to ask for help, makes it very important to detect the signs, both physical and emotional, of behavior which indicates some form of stress. These can include obvious physical signs such as headaches and nausea, and less obvious, but equally important emotional ones such as feelings of uneaseiness, or not having fun, or even more obvious symptoms like edginess and even anger.

The causes of teenage stress may appear trivial by comparison to the stresses which we experience as adults, which are associated with our responsibilites. However, to teenagers their suffering is very real, and can be very difficult to deal with. The good news is that, with the right encouragement, teenagers’ ability to cope with the stresses in their lives can be improved enormously. The benefits of being able to do so can be far reaching and long lasting, since the habits learned in adolesence carry through well into adult life

The first thing to learn is how to avoid a build up of stress in the first place, and this can be accomplished by following some simple, yet effective guidelines. These include eating right, getting enough sleep, avoiding drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and excess caffeine. Encouraging teenagers to spend time in activities which they actually enjoy, whether it’s reading, writing, music, or sports, will also allow them to be removed from constant sources of stress, like cell phones, email, IM, texting, and social media. It should also allow them to relax, and prevent both the reality and the perception of their time being over committed.

The more that teenagers realize that there is a support network to help them through their problems, the easier it can be for them to learn how to cope. That way, they can learn to talk openly about the causes of their stress, and as a result, explore potential cures and remedies which might help. Typically, they need to know that adults will keep the lines of communication open, so that they can make use of them when the need arises.

Of course, this need will always arise when you least expect it, and when you are least ready to deal with it. However, that’s when it really matters to be there for them. And, to paraphrase, the 3 rules of dealing with teenage stress for you as an adult can be summarized as: listen, listen, and listen. It’s your opportunity to act as a model for them to emulate, by listening in a way which provides support and encouragement.

Teen fashion tribes

ARE U ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO BELIVE THAT GOTHIC IS JUST ONE ARCHITECTURAL STYLE? THEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TI LEARN MORE ABOUT FASHION TRIBES .

ALL AROUND THE WORLD TEENAGERS LOVE TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES WITH CLOTHES THEY WERE , THEIR HAIRSTYLE ,THEIR MAKE -UP AND THEIR ACCESSORIES . TRYING DIFFERENT STYLES IS A WAY OF EXPLORING THEIR PERSONALITY AND IDENTITY. BESIDES TEENAGERS FEEL MORE CONFIDENT IF THEY ARE PART OF A GROUP WITH COMMON INTERESTS .

FASHION TRIBES ARE EXAMPLE OF SUCH GROUPS .MEMBERS OF THE SAME FASHION TRIBE USUALLY HAVE MORE THINGS IN COMMON THAN THE CLOTHES THEY WEAR .THEY TEND TO HAVE THE SAME HOBBIES ,LISTEN TO THE SAME MUSIC AND HAVE SIMILAR ATTITUDE TOWARDS PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS . SO WHICH ARE THE MOST POPULAR TEEN TRIBES?

A-GOTHS 

BLACK  IS BEAUTIFUL. GOTHS LOVE IT AND THEY THINK ITS COOL TO DRESS IN BLACK .THEY DYE THEIR HAIR BLACK IF THEIR PARENTS ALLOW IT AND THEY WEAR SPOOKY JEWELLERY  SUCH AS BAT ,BRACELETS AND SKULL NECKLACES .THE GIRLS WEAR PALE MAKE UP ,BLACK LIPSTICK AND DARK EYE SHADOW THAT GIVES THEIR EYES SMOKY LOOK.

B-SKATERS

LOGOS AND BRANDS ARE THEIR TRADEMARK .SKATERS ALSO ADORE  EXTREMELY LOOSE    CLOTHES THAT  LOOK   AS IF THEY ARE TWO SIZES TOO BIG. THEIR IDEA OF TRENDY IS BAGGY TROUSERS OR SHORTS AND HOODED TOPS . SOME OF THEM HAVE THEIR HAIR BLEACHED 

C-PUNKS

YOU CAN EASILY SPOT THEM BY THE COLOUR  OF THEIR HAIR : GREEN , YELLOW ,, BLUE ,PINK OR PURPLE STANDING UP IN LONG SPIKES ON THEIR HEAD . THE SECOND THING YOU WILL NOTICE  ABOUT THEM IS THEIR BODY PIERCING . THEY LOVE PIERCING THEIR EARS , NOSES , EYEBROWS , LIPS AND TONGUES AND THEY LIKE TO CONNECT THEM WITH CHAINS .

IN MY NEXT POST YOU WILL KNOW FOR MORE TEENS STYLE 

What type of problems may teenagers typically have ?

We all know that every teenage even if is boy or girl  sometimes feel bad or empty ,like nobody understand you . You don't want to follow your parents advices ??
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